RESOLVING RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS, INSIDE & OUT
Peace in THE world begins with peace in YOUR world.
Peace expands from within to change your world, one relationship at a time.
When everyone understands and undertakes this, THE world will change. It’s natural and organic.
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Your personal peace process begins with a conscious desire and commitment to creating peace within yourself. That means taking the time–frequent, focused, reflective time–to understand who you are right now and who you want to be in your life.
Do your inner work first, reflecting on your life, working through and resolving issues. This takes time and is accelerated by working with an experienced, aligned counselor. It will free you of past limitations and and allow you to focus on the life you wish to consciously create.
Align your actions and words with your values, vision, beliefs and purpose in the moment, in every relationship.
You will then be able to make your unique contribution to the life of the world in every way.
It is our intention at Sow Peace® International to supply the insights, wisdom, services and programs to support you to find the clarity, courage and commitment to sow peace within, at home, at work and everywhere you go.
Let’s walk together.
Sow Peace® International began in the early 1990′s although its name did not emerge until later. It came from an interaction that changed everything for our founder, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler. An expert in resolving relationship problems within, at home and at work, she was facilitating a train-the-trainers three-day seminar for a provincial teachers organization in Canada. At the end of day two, she made a small, though life-changing statement to the group,
“We can choose to live, communicate and engage from love or fear, and it is our choice. As leaders, it is an important choice to make because your impact is immense. Which you choose makes all the difference!”
That in itself was a simple statement. It alone could have been a life-changing realization, however, within an hour, the supervisor for that organization took her aside and said there had been a complaint. The complaint as related was that there was no room for talking about love when we were there to learn how to lead. The complainant stated that she found it offensive and unprofessional, unnecessary in every way.
That is what was life-changing for Dr. Shaler. It was definitely not that she was offering an airy-fairy, woo-woo, “love is all we really need” approach to solving all the problems of the world with her head in the clouds and feet not touching the ground. No, it was far more basic than that. Children and teens–and, of course, adults–flourish in an atmosphere of acceptance, genuine interest and attention, and an enthusiasm for helping them to realize all that they are capable of being, doing, creating and achieving.
If love was not part of the teaching process, or the leadership mindset of the organization, was this the fundamental problem with the schools? Was this why so many teachers took stress leave that it was on the verge of bankrupting school districts? Was this why she spent so much of her time doing professional development workshops in schools throughout the province on stress management and conflict management? Was this why wonderful teachers burned out, because the way teachers were treated was thoughtless, political and generally unloving? Was this why school staffs were at each others throats and school administration was dismissive, controlling and manipulative? Was the lack of love the missing ingredient in the joy of teaching and learning? It seemed it was.
From then on, Dr. Shaler committed herself to finding ways to sow peace and to teach those ways.
When she created Sow Peace International, she focused on the steps of the personal peace process:
- create, sustain and maintain personal peace, inner peace, peace of mind
- allow that internalized peace to transform your relationships at home by creating an atmosphere of love, acceptance, trust and encouragement, and by creating a willingness to take action to resolve relationship problems peacefully
- take the same peace and skills to the workplace to become a center of influence, emanating that same acceptance and unconditional positive regard for those we work with.
- experience the exponential effect of your decision to create, sustain and maintain personal peace as you see the changes in your world.
You are engaging in your Personal Peace Process.
Do the inside work and find your own center of inner peace.
Let it expand in all that you do, everywhere, in every relationship.
This is how peace grows.
Rhoberta Shaler, PhD
